As the high school sports season kicks off this week, some sage words of advice came from the Iowa High School Athletic Association and National Federation of High Schools.
The following remarks, from NFHS director Karissa Niehoff and IHSAA executive director Tom Keating, concern the growing issue of adult and parent behavior at high school games. Some of those incidents have made national news, but many more just make local headlines when the coaches, athletic directors and sometimes officials leave their jobs.
Here's what they each had to say, and it's as a friendly reminder:
"Inappropriate adult behaviors at high school athletic events across the country have reached epidemic proportion.
"When more than 2,000 high school athletic directors were asked in a recent national survey what they like least about their job, 62.3-percentsaid it was, 'Dealing with aggressive parents and adult fans.'
"And the men and women who referee or umpire those contests agree. In fact, almost 60 percent of new officials registered in Iowa in 2016-17 did not return to officiate in 2017-18, and unruly parents are often cited as a major reason why.
"As a result, there is a growing shortage of high school officials here in Iowa, and in baseball, football, track and field, and wrestling, the IHSAA is seeing record lows. No officials means no games.
"If you are a parent attending a high school athletic event this fall, you can help by following these six guidelines:
"1. Act your age. You are, after all, an adult. Act in a way that makes your family and school proud.
"2. Don’t live vicariously through your children. High school sports are for them, not you. Your family’s reputation is not determined by how well your children perform on the field of play.
"3. Let your children talk to the coach instead of doing it for them. High school athletes learn how to become more confident, independent and capable—but only when their parents don’t jump in and solve their problems for them.
"4. Stay in your own lane. No coaching or officiating from the sidelines. Your role is to be a responsible, supportive parent, not a coach or official.
"5. Remember: Participating in a high school sport is not about a college scholarship. According to the NCAA, only about 2 percent of all high school athletes are awarded a sports scholarship, and the average total value of that scholarship is only around $18,000.
"6. Make sure your children know you love watching them play. Do not critique your child’s performance on the car ride home.
"Participating in high school sports is about character development, learning and having fun—not winning and losing.
"Purchasing a ticket to a high school sporting event does not give you the right to be rude, disrespectful, or verbally abusive. Cheer loud and be proud, but please also be responsible and considerate as a spectator. The future of high school sports in Iowa is dependent on you."
I know we all like to get caught up in the moment and most of us have just made a few boo-boos that can be overlooked when it comes to sportsmanship. But there are some who have crossed the line, and it often gets me to wonder: Are they playing for a new exotic sports car full of bikini-clad women? A fantasy trip to the Caribbean? A million-dollar home?
No, they're just playing for the love of the game. And a financially- (and fanstasy) future does not ride on a high school game.
It's like someone once said: "Let the players play, the coaches coach and you get to be the fan."
Let's keep it that way as we cheer on our favorite sports teams.